Let go...

Don't get me wrong, persevering through certain hardships in relationships is honorable and your relationship comes out better than before, but when it gets to be continual, it is time to let go.  There is great hurt in knowing that you're sacrificing so much of yourself for someone who doesn't return the favor. I'm heartbroken every time I see a young woman constantly take their boyfriends back over and over again after he has wronged her many times. It hurts so much because I've been in that same situation. I know what it feels like to love and to think life wouldn't be the same without that boy, I know what it feels like to think that he's the only one that understands me, I also know what it feels like to be lonely in a relationship. It took me so long to finally realize that I am a queen and God loves me much more than that boy ever could on his best day and that God can wipe all of that hurt away.

I went through a process of finally letting go of the guy I shouldn't have ever been with in the first place. I am praying this helped you as helped me:

1. Actually talking to God. I spent so much time wrapped up trying to figure out where that boy was, who he was with, and why he was with them than I did on my face before the true love of my life and that is very dangerous on so many levels. Once I rekindled my flame with God I began to see how messed up my relationship really was and to be honest I felt dumb because I knew better!
2. Gained a support system. I began getting around friends who had the mindset that I wanted...contentment. The only relationship they were "thirsting" for (lol) was their relationship with Jesus! They supported me and pushed me towards God and in that, I was pushed further and further away from that boy. 
3. Had fun! I can not stress this enough!! Being a Christian is FUN! Get out with your girls for a spa day or a movie and LAUGH! Do random stuff like switch seats at a red light, sit around and try to laugh without smiling (gets me every time), go out and see the scenery, go to museums, there's so much to do! I quickly began to forget about him, and I blocked his number so whenever he did try to come back, I OENO it. The day I did this, I realized I didn't deserve to be treated the way that I was. I realized I'm too cute for all of that! 
4. Deleted him from all social media. I'm putting this because although I did not delete him from everything, I know that this is really an issue. We used to break up and I would be all over his Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook! It got to the point where I would look at it so often that I would miss him and the cycle would repeat. I did not delete him this time around because I truly know that I'm over him. I don't get butterflies anymore when I see him. I hardly ever go on his pages unless he likes any of my stuff and I go to return the favor and even then, I can't bring it to myself to be up there long... and when I did see him on my timeline talking foolishness, I never allowed it to get me upset because I was past that. Queens never respond to foolishness, we dismiss it. 
5. Kept my thoughts on lock. For a while after our breakup, I caught myself thinking that I needed him and I would never find anyone else to be with me. Complete foolishness. I really had to combat my thoughts and replace them with "God loves me and He knew me before I was formed in the womb, I trust His perfect plan for my life and I honor the path He has laid before me and I thank God for the man He is preparing for me. I am waiting patiently." I really had to tell myself that a lot until I got it. 

So now that you have my plan, let me let you in on a little secret: Satan LOVES to use the opposite sex as a distraction. He knows how we work, he knows that we have desires (they're natural), so he plays off of those desires and uses our emotions against us. He dangles that idea of having a relationship in front of our face, and it's our responsibility to say no and wait for God's best. In the meantime, pursue God in everything you do and become a better you. Your God-ordained king will come in due time and he will make you forget that the other guy existed... 

Ex who??

It's time to claim our crowns ladies! You are a queen! Made in the image of the Most High God! Love you!